10 Things I’d Tell My 10-Year-Old Self

#10 You’re a kid. You don’t need to do things right or even care at all about doing anything right at all.

Blue-eyed girl with blonde bob, leaning on her face, outside wearing a sparkly sequin top in lilac, brown & white stripes
Blue-eyed girl with blonde bob, leaning on her face, outside wearing a sparkly sequin top in lilac, brown & white stripes
Photo by 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič on Unsplash
  1. Scratch every itch. You’re young now and have all the time in the world. Curious about something? Go try it out. I was not too bad at this. During the few years I lived abroad as a child, I tried out judo, tennis, and football, only to give up on them after several weeks because these sports didn’t interest me as much as I thought they would. This you only can know by trying. To keep the search going, you need the parents’ cooperation and them to facilitate your travel from and to the sports club. You can improve this by working on the first point.
  2. Playing so much Gameboy is fine. You’re a ten-year-old kid. Nothing more to be said about this one. Carry that gaming and Pokémon obsession with you without shame.
  3. Bad-mouthing is not a pretty thing to do. As a shy kid who was craving acceptance, I would sometimes say dumb shit about others. It doesn’t flatter or make you look cool, ever.
  4. You don’t need to like the same things as your peers. Nail polish, girly magazines, shopping? I just wanted to play games.
  5. The lunch lady isn’t mad at you. You’re just failing to understand cultural differences. In the United Kingdom, it’s polite to end any sentence with a request with the word “please”. If not, you’re a rude snob. I thought, but I already ask the question kindly and politely, why add the word “please” behind it? Adding this word felt like begging. Until I learned that this is just how people phrase requests here.
  6. Protect your interests. Make drawings anyway. Read about art history anyway. Just don’t anticipate any nice words from people who don’t accept or understand your interests. They don’t need to. As long as you like what you’re spending your time on, no one else needs to care. Also, now is the best time to start building out a hobby. Just imagine how good you’ll become ten years from now.
  7. You don’t need to play as though you’re that cool. You will see. Being yourself is enough. You don’t need to be liked by everyone. Learn to like yourself more first.
  8. The example of a “relationship” that is being shown to you right now? Just because this is the only example you get to see does not necessarily mean that it is the right example of how relationships should be. When you get older, you will have plenty of opportunities to discover how you want this for yourself so you can attach your definition to the term “good relationship”.
  9. You are so young. You don’t need to do things right or even care at all about doing anything right now at all. Play, try, fail, and explore. At this age, there is nothing more.

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